By Annemarie Juhlian, for inspiration and sharing …
First of all, this is your wedding!
This means you have lots of creative license around how to celebrate your relationship and the ones you love. So, be bold, innovative, romantic, sentimental or outrageous!
Here is a quick overview of unique ideas and suggestions to consider as you design, create and craft your wedding ceremony.
Bride/Honoring Your Mother and new Mother-In-Law
On the way down the aisle, before taking her place beside the groom, the bride pauses and presents both her mother and her soon-to-be mother-in-law with a small personalized item/gift, fitting with the occasion.
Groom/Honoring Mother and new Mother-in-Law
Have the groom escort both his mother and the bride’s mother to their seats in the processional.
Unique, Memorable Rituals
Include special rituals and moments in your ceremony. Consider a rose exchange, blessing of parents and children, drinking of the wine/breaking the glass, a great moment of humor, a hand fasting ritual, a reading by 2 or 3 people for special effect, a personalized honoring of children or perhaps the “creation” of a cherished take-home memento. Or even celebrate by having your beloved pooch as your “best dog.”
Include children or mention them if you are blending two families. Have your child(ren) sign the wedding certificate along with your witnesses. Remember to keep the focus on the two of you and work with your Officiant to weave in an honoring of your children and family, in a way that is authentic and comfortable.
Honoring a Loved One
Mention a family member who has passed and honor their memory. Do so with joy, remembering the legacy of love left behind in a very positive and uplifting way.
Have all parents stand to be recognized and to celebrate in the day.
Flip the Ceremony Around
Consider facing your guests instead of having your back to them.
Mention and thank the person who introduced you during the ceremony. Express gratitude to parents, grandparents, special guests (best of all, do so as a surprise). If you met on-line, have fun with this mention!
Have a close family member or friend read a poem during the ceremony. Remember, weddings are an emotional event and some people just aren’t good “readers.” Given this, consider a reading where 2 or 3 people can participate. This makes things even more dynamic and interesting.
Festive Processional Music
Select something non-traditional for your recessional music like James Brown’s “I Feel Good!”
Consider being married by candlelight – nothing is more romantic!
Add Some Fun
Have your attendants hold up rating cards after the marriage declaration/kiss. Create a surprise for someone special. Add humor to your ceremony as elegant relaxes everyone, including your Officiant!
Have a surprise wedding! Truly!
Invite everyone over for a party and imagine their shock when you change into your gown and tuxedos!
When your ceremony is prepared with care and love, whatever happens during the ceremony itself (dropping the rings, flubbing your lines, etc.), becomes part of the magic and joy of the moment and contributes to the specialness of your day. So have fun, be creative and enjoy the process of creating your ceremony.
Let’s Talk Weddings
If you think we might be a good fit and would like to talk more about ideas to make your wedding ceremony unique and personal, please give me a call at 425.922.1325 or . You can also get in touch with me via this contact form and expect a prompt reply.